Blog 5

This was an interesting chapter to read I am not sure that I agree with some of the quote “direction instruction” unquote.  I get what the book was trying to convey, but we do not live in a world of would you, could you, and the reason behind what is being asked of you.  We need to of course teach our children to share, be giving, help and be thoughtful to one another but there are all kinds of situations and this is to general of a concept.  As a parent if you ask; not tell; a child it is time to pick up your room there is an expectation there, it is time to clean your room. There could be a thousand reasons why it’s time to clean your room but it is now time to clean it.  I also believe that a child should question authority, why should I clean my room? A reason then is given and the expectation is the same. The room needs to be cleaned.  The next time the room is asked to be cleaned, there is an expectation that it will be done.  I point this out because when we are adults we need to share in the responsibilities of what is important to the family in which one belongs and that there are things that are expected just for being part of that family.  The reason I mention that authority should be questioned is for clarification if needed by the child. What if an adult was going to harm a child by asking them to do something, the child should know that if something does not feel right that they should question authority and what is happening. This is a hard concept to teach, but my feeling is it is an important one.

I am very opinionated on subject of child rearing, this is why.  In most cases (there are exceptions) people, men and women make a choice to have a child.  By making that choice you must, again this is my opinion make that child a priority and put that child first.  The child did not ask to come into this world there was a choice made to bring a new life into this world.  I do not believe there is a right or wrong way to parent, but with that said abuse is not part of the equation. I know we do not live in a perfect world.  I know this from experience, it was far from a Disneyland the happiest place on earth kind of childhood, But Life Happens, good or bad and as parents we have to make sure that the child that we chose to bring into this world has a chance at the best life we can give.  As adults we can make a choice to have a happy life or one or turmoil.  We humans have choices regardless of our up-bringing.